It's those days when you just stare at yourself in the mirror, smirk, and go "meh." No matter how great you look, I believe every woman is just too familiar with the off days. Ones where you feel bloated and ugly you resort to wearing your favorite garterized bottoms and loose sweat shirts. And being in this very comfy ensemble, you end up turning your A/C on, hiding from the rest of the world in your room while curling under your cozy comforter.
Yep, I've done that waaaay too many times. Fact of the matter is, I am on my off day this very moment as I write this post, and I strongly feel it's because that time of the month on its way. Ugh, the pains of being a woman.
Instead of sulking and letting the feeling-ugly days get the best of me, I've decided to make a list of how to combat it. We won't take this sitting down!
Say this with me: I WILL NOT COMPARE MY BODY AND MYSELF TO STRANGERS I SEE ONLINE AND IN MAGAZINES. If you must throw away all the girly/fashion magazines that only leave you feeling bad after flipping through its pages--I suggest you do it. If you have to unfollow some people on Instagram who just cause you to compare every part of your body with--go for it. You have to understand that we are all created uniquely, fearfully, and wonderfully, and women aren't supposed to look a certain, specific way anyway. I hate how the media standardizes beauty by forcing us to believe that what's only attractive are the photoshopped images of Western-looking women you see in advertisements.
Take it out by working out. I know, I know, you'd rather sit on the couch (or lay in bed) and marathon your favorite shows. I feel ya. But you see, the more you get into the habit of bumming during your off days, the more you'll get used to it, and that ain't gonna help, sister. NOT NOW, NOT EVER. Being lethargic when you feel ugly will just magnify the feeling of being bloated and sloppy. To avoid the empty feeling that comes after a full day of being a total sloth, get off your butt and just get active! You don't have to do a major WOD (work out of the day in Crossfit lingo), you can just blast pumpin' music and dance in your room. You can also look up workouts on Youtube (my favorite are HipHop Abs and videos by Chalene Johnson)! I really believe you don't have to spend money to pursue fitness, and I also believe that hitting the gym and/or running are NOT the only ways to sweat. As long as you're moving, you're active, so do what you enjoy and get to it! Plus, working out naturally releases happy hormones, so that's really gonna help you in shooing the ugly days away. ;)
Look good for yourself. Whenever I feel ugly, the more I don't want to take any effort in making myself look good, hence, all the more I feel unpretty. So today, even if I'm just going to stay in and blog, I decided to put on some light makeup on and wear decent pambahay (stay in) clothes (not the ratty, oversized ones that I have owned I was 8 years old). Loving someone means doing things for them even if you don't feel like it. If you can take an effort to make other people feel good, why not do the same for yourself?
Be grateful for your body. The best way to combat days when you're feeling low about your body is to be thankful for it. I highly encourage you to keep a body-love journal. This is where you write all the things you thank your body for. Start with writing at least 5 statements every single day. Thank your feet for taking you to all the places you've been to that day. Thank your arms for driving you to work. Thank your eyes for allowing you to see the beautiful sights that took your breath away to this Holy Week. It may seem inane and shallow, but it can actually nourish your soul when you commit to considering your body parts as blessings than whining about how bad you look.
Do not overfeed yourself. Told you I know the off days too well! :P There's just something about finding comfort in food, and sometimes, we tend to abuse this comfort. I personally tend to overeat and overindulge when I'm PMS-ing, and I make the crazy hormonal imbalance an excuse to do so. But then, I'd feel pretty bad for letting my emotions get the best of me, and getting too stuffed isn't a very good feeling either, biologically speaking. Eating just the right amount of food when I'm on my PMS is something I've just recently committed to work on, and I know it's going to be tough. But I'm sure that once I get the hang of not overeating, I'd feel better about myself, inside and out.
Remind yourself that you are more than being looked at. There is more to you than a face and a body. Like what this photo from beauty Redefined says, there's more to be than eye candy. Whenever you find yourself feeling ugly, just remember that you are more than your looks, and then mentally enumerate--or better yet list down--all the positive adjectives you feel about yourself and include all the others that have been said to describe you. Focus on your character and who are, and hinge yourself deeper than what's on your surface.
There you go! I hope this list helps to get you through negative body-image days. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. So just focus on yourself and your journey towards radical self and body love!